I have personally gone through this with transitions with The Beauty Room, the end of Love IT! EVV Magazine and many other partnerships that I loved. When these things end, we are expected of us to just carry on like nothing happened. Something did. A partnership that you felt very invested in severed and now your competitor is in your spot, you had to close a business or your feeling were just very hurt. You may have got a big NO for something you were betting on to be a sure thing. All of these can be so heartbreaking, so I wanted to give you some things that may help. Here are five great ways to get through business heartbreak.
BE SAD...or whatever.
Yo. It is completely okay to be all up in your misery, your anger, your heartbreak. It’s okay to feel your feelings. I repeat, IT IS OKAY TO FEEL YOUR FEELINGS. They are valid no matter the situation. You only create more pain and resistance when you try to stuff them down. There is a time for trying to get back in the groove of things and putting on a happy face. Right after a perceived failure or disappointment or just not it. Not addressing how you truly feel about the situation will only further complicate future business endevours. What you resist, persists. So listen to Alanis Morissette, rip stuff up, have a bonfire whatever fits your mood in that moment.
Plan a Getaway
Run away. Far away from your problems. An Island always sounds nice.
Well, I am only half way serious, because I don’t have island money or a week to spare. While not a popular opinion, I do think it is healthy to take your body and all the things that could be triggers out of your life if only for a couple days. Really during your business heartbreak are the stages of grief. We pour our resources, our love, our life into our businesses. A mental break does not come often enough. Especially when it may be your sole income. So schedule a weekend or a couple days for sheer space to let your mind and body go other places. This can be done to have more space to feel your feelings or a great time to do it is when you’re ready to get over that hump of self pity.
Okay you have to take your woe is me outfit off ( I legit have a playlist, outfit, tea for when this happens) and look at the situation through a few different perspectives. When you do this you can take inventory of what happened in a less biased way. This step is VITAL especially for service givers. As an esthetician, I automatically jump to “do they hate me now”, if I see that they’ve gone somewhere else for a service.
I take myself out of the equation and ask; Was I even available? Was the competitor’s price more viable for the person? Do they have other people in their life that give these services? These types of questions vary for everyone. Not taking things so personally will save you a world of hurt. Honestly things aren’t all about us. It seems that way since our businesses are very personal to us. Even with our best clients and partnerships it is still a BUSINESS transaction. A lot of factors take place when doing business we can’t for get that even when we’ve created a relationship. If this is a shock to you, look at some of the people you love but don’t patronize a lot.
REVISIT YOUR WHY
Sometimes we’re thirsty. We’re dying to drink from whatever we think may give us life.
What we don’t realize in those times, is that it may not have even been what we truly want. When things don’t work out, God was probably working and literally “business blocked” you so that you stay on the right path. Alignment will not only create better flow for serendipitous moments in life and business, but also creates sustainability. My WHY felt like it’s been changing and the last year, but it hasn’t. What I was doing to get to it has been, but when I look at the bigger picture, I know that my choices revolve around providing women with spaces to BE, sharing knowledge & love on my journey in hopes that it will help others make whatever leap they’ve been yearning for. What is your WHY and are you making your choices with your why at the forefront?
Pat Yourself On The Back
Quite easily one of the hardest things when you are going thru this. Girl, take a minute though and really applaud yourself. You went for something. Whether it was a business, a partnership a job opportunity, YOU TRIED. Honestly that is 73% of the battle. What taking action does is gets you further than you were, even if it’s not the place you originally imaged. So look at you, all in a different place & stuff! Go have a drink and celebrate the space there is for new things to happen.
As always you if you’re ready to do some plotting and have some fun on the way to creating your next business venture, holla atcha girl! .